Steadier days. Softer edges. More you.
EMDR and trauma focused therapy for adults in Massachusetts
Therapy with Kat DiFillippo Montague, LICSW
In Person Sessions Based in Plymouth, MA & Online therapy for adults throughout the South Shore and across Massachusetts
Life doesn’t look or feel the way you wish it did.
I’m a trauma-focused psychotherapist and EMDR provider based in Plymouth, MA, offering in-person therapy on the South Shore and online trauma therapy across Massachusetts for high-functioning adults who became the strong “I’m fine” one in their family.
We can slow down, name what still hurts, and make a plan that fits the life you actually have. Little by little, you can feel more like yourself again - grounded, honest, and on your own side.
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Grief can make time feel strange. One moment you are functioning and the next a song or a smell brings you to your knees. You might feel numb, angry, guilty, or all of it in the same afternoon. Nothing is wrong with you. Your love is doing what love does when it loses something precious.
In therapy we make room for your feelings and the story of your person. We slow down, keep you anchored, and find small rituals that help you move through the day. We will not rush you. We will help you carry what cannot be fixed and soften what can be soothed.
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Maybe you learned to be the strong one in a complicated family. You kept the peace and the secrets, read every room, and took care of everyone else long before anyone knew how to take care of you. It worked then, but now it shows up as anxiety, people pleasing, perfectionism, or a nervous system that never fully settles. You might understand the story and still feel the old alarm in your body, especially around family.
In therapy we make sense of how you survived and how those skills can soften. We build steadiness first with sleep, boundaries, and coping tools. We practice new ways to relate to yourself that are kinder and more honest. You get to keep what served you and let the rest go.
If it fits your goals, EMDR can help the past lose its charge so the present can breathe. You stay in control and we go at your pace. Over time, triggers quiet, self trust grows, and your life starts to feel like it belongs to you.
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It makes sense to feel stuck when your head knows one thing and your body feels another. We can slow everything down, name what is actually happening, and make a simple plan that fits your real life. We will build steadiness first, then gently work on the patterns that keep pulling you back. You do not have to do this alone.
Who I work with:
I work with thoughtful, high-functioning adults who learned early to be the steady one.
The ones who:
Grew up reading every room, keeping the peace, and holding family secrets
Still feel small, guilty, or on edge after a call or visit with a parent
Swing between compassion and resentment toward family members who don’t really see them
Feel stuck between loyalty to family and loyalty to themselves
Have partners or friends who say “just stand up to them” without understanding how unsafe that feels
Are tired of people-pleasing, over-explaining, and replaying every conversation in their head
Want their nervous system to finally believe: I’m safe now. I get to choose my life.
If you became the strong “I’m fine” one long before you were ready, you’re in the right place.
I’m kat.
I believe you deserve relief from pain and hope for healing.
You do not have to earn it or go through it alone. Together we can build steadiness, soften the hard edges, and make a plan that fits your life. Little by little, your days can feel lighter and more like you.
The goal is not to erase your story but to help your body believe it is safe now.
How I can help
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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I help adults heal the lingering impact of hard experiences so they can feel safe in their bodies again. We start with steadiness and coping tools, then gently untangle patterns that keep you stuck. The goal is fewer triggers, clearer boundaries, and a life that feels like yours.
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Grief is not a problem to fix. It is a love story that needs care and room to breathe. Together we make space for your feelings, find rituals that comfort you, and help life feel a little more livable while honoring what you have lost.
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EMDR works with your brain and nervous system to help the past settle. We use gentle eye movements or taps while you notice thoughts and sensations. Over time the charge drops, triggers soften, and your day to day feels lighter and more manageable.
Life is stressful enough right now.
Let me make this part as easy as possible.
How It Works:
I know reaching out for therapy can feel overwhelming, especially if you’ve carried the weight of trauma for a long time. You don’t have to navigate this alone. Healing is possible, and I’d be honored to walk alongside you as you take the next step toward feeling more grounded, supported, and free. Take that first step and contact me today.